"Too much love never spoils children. Children become spoiled when we substitute "presents" for "presence". Anthony Witham

This time of year when much of our focus is placed upon the gifts we are going to give our children, I want to urge you to take a moment to think about the relationship you have with each of your children. What non-tangible gifts can you give them? As a photographer, I take pictures of my children on a consistent basis. This year, I decided to create a book of pictures for each of them. In the back of the album are blank pages. My husband and I are writing the things they like, funny things they said during the year, memorable experiences, and a love letter to each of them. Sometimes I get so caught up in parenting; do this or don't do that, that I forget to tell them what I love about them and how much I adore them. So, I'm going to write it down and make sure they know how I feel. I'm also making a commitment to myself and to them to spend 10 minutes a day with each of them individually and take them on a monthly date. This is my gift. My baby turned 4 last month and it was a wake up call to me. Time is going by quickly. Soon, they will be all grown up and what I do now is going to affect their lives and our relationship later. I'm reminded of a quote I've heard most of my life; "If you love them, tell them". Let's not let the days go by without them knowing their parents love them. A good friend of mine is in remission from cancer. She has told me that she is writing letters to her children, in case she leaves this life on earth prematurely. She wants to give them advice, express her feelings, and let them know she loves them. That isn't a bad idea for any of us. After all, we never know when our time is up. Let's not wait another day to put off telling and showing them how much we car about them. 

May your Christmas bring you much happiness as you spend time with your loved ones.  Amongst all the fun, remember to give them a gift that matters.

Be loving and be well! 

BHW